Healing in the Fight

Sometimes, the best thing to do is just fight it out.
Otherwise, you'll end up holding onto things and it just ends up in confusion and frustration.
Trust me; I've been there. Heck, I'm there.

The other night, I was talking to a friend. We kind of have this mixed relationship. Maybe it's love-hate. Because sometimes I really want to hate him, but then other times I can't help but love him. Anyway, we tend to get into these deep conversations that usually turn into arguments. And the other night, something came up. Something that brought up all these questions in my mind. Soon enough, we were fighting. I couldn't swallow all the things I was thinking, and he had finally had enough. There were times in the conversation when I just wanted it all to stop.
I don't want to fight with someone who had been so great to me! What if I scared him away? What if my annoying questions finally pushed him over the edge and he just left?
At times, I thought we were going to just call it a night- mid-fight -and go to bed angry and confused.
But I knew that in order to get better, we had to dig deeper.
So we fought. He told me what was wrong with me and I told him how much he'd hurt me. It was hard. And it was confusing. Sometimes I wanted to tear my hair out of just crawl in a hole.
But it worked.
Eventually, we got down to the bottom of it.
Eventually, I felt like we had finally made progress in our relationship. And by the end of the night, I wasn't confused and upset. I finally had closure. Had I given up before things got ugly, I would have hated myself. So I'm glad we stayed up and fought. I just hope it doesn't have to happen too many more times.

So my reason for sharing all this with you is to let you know that sometimes you just need to fight! Sure, it stings and it's uncomfortable, and you'll probably get hurt, but it's important to hear the truth and to also speak what's been bothering you. Don't let these thoughts fester too long, cause you'll end up exploding at the wrong time.

As much as I wish we could have a perfect relationship, my friend and I will never be like that. It's just not in our nature to talk about "fluff." And when you dig down deep, you're bound to strike a few nerves.

So don't be afraid to fight it out. There is wonderful healing in the fight.

Never go to bed angry - fight it out and move on.